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Learn how to Love Yourself

Thursday, September 24th, 2009

Loving yourself allows you to see the beauty in others. It opens your senses to the vividness of divine light, to the sweetness of your own life experience and to the power of your focused incarnation. Loving yourself allows your consciousness to believe the shape of love, which makes you at once loving and lovable. But most of us are very mean with the love we tender ourselves.

Be kind and patient and gentle: Be kind to yourself.  Be patient with yourself as you discover the new ways of thinking.  Be gentle with yourself.  Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved.

Be loving to your negatives: Acknowledge that you made them to fulfill a need.  Now you are finding new, positive ways to complete those needs.  So, lovingly release the old negative patterns.

Be kind to your mind:   Self-hatred is only hating your own ideas.  Don’t hate yourself for having the thoughts.  Gently change the ideas.

Don’t scare yourself: Stop frightening yourself with your ideas.  It’s a terrible way to live.   Find a mental image that gives you happiness and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.

Mirror work: Look into your own eyes often.  Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself.   Forgive yourself looking into the mirror.  Talk to your parents looking into the mirror.  Forgive them, too.  At least everyday, say: “I love you, I really love you!”

Praise yourself: Criticism breaks the inner spirit.  Praise builds it up.  Praise yourself as much as you can.  Tell yourself how well you are doing with every small thing.

Stop all criticism: Criticism never transforms a thing.  Decline to criticize yourself.  Accept yourself precisely as you are.  Everybody changes.  When you criticize yourself, your changes are depressing.  When you agree of yourself, your changes are positive.

Support yourself: Find ways to support yourself.  Reach out to your friends, and allow them to help you.  It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.

As you open to loving yourself in this way, you also develop your ability to love others exponentially. As you love others with more genuineness, you shine love’s light everywhere you go.

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How to control your Emotions

Tuesday, September 15th, 2009

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Millions of individuals suffer from fear, anxiety, depression, etc. Many of these persons however do suffer because they engage their mind with those emotional objects causing fear, anxiety, depression, etc.

If you want to vary your emotional approach – if you want to balance and heal your emotional life, then you need to focus on happiness, joy, love, you need to focus all your attention on the sunny side of life to attract joyful emotional energies within yourself. You are becoming what you feed yourself with.

Being able to manage your emotions is a massive step towards limitless happiness. For little things in your life, you will be able to use the following method to immediately change your thoughts and viewpoints. For bigger matters it might take more time.

Identify the emotions you need to control. If you are prone to angry break outs, then find coping systems that work for you. Focus on your breathing. Breathe slowly and deeply to help decrease your heart rate and take more oxygen to your brain. When you focus on your breathing, you change your ideas from the emotions you’re feeling, removing them from the forefront of your mind.

Use visualization imagine soothing circumstances or colors you find relaxing. This technique is a very effective way to control your emotions during stressful or high-anxiety times or if something has made you very angry. Concentrate on an item in the distance for several minutes. This focal point will put your energy on something other than the emotions you’re feeling.

Recognize the emotion you were feeling at the time when you couldn’t effectively express it. Usually emotions that you don’t want to let somebody see are negative and you need to acknowledge these negative feelings in order to deal with them. Ask yourself why you were mad or what strained you out about the situation.

Emo­tions are our ring­ing bell. When we are in a bad mood, it means we are ex­pe­ri­enc­ing bad emo­tions. When we are in a good mood, it means we’re ex­pe­ri­enc­ing good emo­tions.
This means what you do (your be­havior) feeds back what you be­lieve in. It’s a cir­cle. It’s a vi­cious cir­cle when emo­tions are bad and a vir­tu­ous cir­cle when emo­tions are good.

When you live out your emo­tions thru be­havior, you won’t be liv­ing out emo­tions, but rather con­firm­ing your un­hap­py think­ing pat­tern. In­stead of get­ting rid of the emo­tion, you’ll be feed­ing it. It will grow in you.


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Reasons to Stay Positive

Thursday, August 27th, 2009

How to maintain a positive attitude is a subject for different articles as there are many methods to achieve it. However, choosing you want to do this is a key first step, and can lead you towards pursuing methods which work for you. A good second step is to begin to basically identify when you are not feeling positive, and pause to reflect on whether you want to choose to feel that way or not. Obtaining your mind out of autopilot puts you back into control, which is essential to changing your attitude.

Maintaining a positive attitude may lead to higher production, whether in your career or personal life. When you are negative, you have a tendency to give up more easily, get easily distracted, get frustrated, and drag your feet. A basic thing such as how you think can make a world of difference.

Who wants to be around a negative person? Do you? Do you want to attract negative people, or positive people? When you are negative, you are sending out signals to others to stay away from you, unless perhaps they are also negative and seek a similar mindset.

Ancient practitioners and medical providers have thought that your attitude can affect your health. Your body takes lines from your mind, and negative thoughts can be disruptive to your internal body processes. Handling stress is a challenge for us, to keep away from stress-induced illnesses. The overturn is also true that having good health will contribute towards a positive attitude, so take care of your body. A holistic approach is to focus on your body and mind together, ensuring you are eating well and getting exercise.

Happiness is perhaps one of the most significant things of all, what good are the other things above if you aren’t happy? Financial success doesn’t necessarily associate to happiness, many wealthy people are quite miserable. Happiness is really a mental state, and we have complete control of our own minds. Unluckily, many leave their emotions and thoughts on “autopilot”, never deciding for themselves how they want to think. Upholding a positive attitude connects to a decision to be happy, it’s your choice.

If you apply a religious belief, then you may also consider that remaining positive is a component of a spiritual growth path. Many religions teach this basic principle that we should stay positive and trust in our creator no matter how bad things may seem. Even if you don’t have spiritual beliefs, maybe you feel something inside your conscience that urges you to be positive, and thus have a positive impact on others in your life. Being positive makes others feel excellent, which is rewarding in itself.

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Be Your Own Success Coach

Monday, August 24th, 2009

Coaching is an important part of personal development. If you can’t hire a certified coach, you can coach yourself. There are many things that people can do to grow themselves personally, and they don’t always entail an outlay of cash.

Identify your values, and ally your life around those values.

Many individual’s lives are not familiar around their values, and they are frustrated trying to determine why they aren’t happy, or aren’t reaching their goals. When you are expressing your importance, you are being true to yourself. Pursuing goals that are not in line with your values leads to frustrations. Living in alignment with your values leads to fulfillment.

Develop the habit of extreme self-care.

Treat your body as a sanctuary, and it will carry you in producing extraordinary results in every other area of your life. Exercise frequently, in the form of power training as well as cardiovascular exercises. Drink lots of water. We know half of our body weight in ounces sounds too much, but it isn’t. Finally, give yourself the gift of privacy. Enjoy quiet time every day.

Attend courses, workshops and seminars regularly.

The design of such materials needs hundreds, and sometimes thousands, of hours to create. When you attend a workshop, you benefit from someone else’s efforts to distill the most important information on that subject. Although some occasions can be very expensive, many are also quite reasonable.

Plan your ideal life.

If life is perfect, what will it look like? What will you do, be and have if you could wave a magic wand, and make it so? What will you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail? Your ideal life is contained within your answers to these questions. Start today to paint the picture of what this ideal life would look like.

Just do it.

At some point, you will need to jump. It will not always be relaxed doing so. However it is only when you move outside your comfort zone that breakthroughs can happen. This is where fear frequently steps in, and puts up that big wall in front of you. So go around it, dig under it, climb over it, or knock it down. If you maintain to take action in the direction of your best life, your fears will eventually go away.

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Delivering The Difficult Messages At Work

Tuesday, August 18th, 2009

Feedback is necessary to the personal or professional development process. As you progress professionally, you will be placed in more circumstances in which you will need to give feedback to others. Letting your through reports know how well they are doing is generally the pleasing part of feedback loop. It’s when a complicated message has to be given that many managers and leaders stumble. Whether the information needs to be distributed with an individual, a group or an entire organization, these instances can truly become an opportunity for all parties involved. Opportunity arises when the result of the interaction leads to greater motivation, learning, awareness, support and creativity as well as a call to action.

Faced with this dispute-cum-opportunity, how do you really do it?

Be timely – Although it is easy to defer on challenging tasks, this is one that is best done sooner than later for you and the person receiving the message. If the reaction is tied to a detailed incident, it’s best that both parties have it freshly in their mind. If it is more general, the sooner the feedback is given, the faster action can be taken to develop the situation. Never ‘save’ complicated messages for future annual reviews. It will decrease the significance of the original message since it was delayed and a ‘negative’ surprise in a review can significantly impair morale and motivation.

Be ready – Know the message that you want to send and the results you expect. Recognize and accept the painful feelings that you may have in taking on this role. If fear or anxiety is holding you back, change on the reason of this interaction and the value that will be provided to all parties involved, including yourself. For most, this is a chance to widen your communication skills.

Be concise – Once the discussion starts, allow it to finish quickly. If the recipient is having an emotional reaction, he/she may want time to reform as soon as possible. Save other business things for a time when they will be heard.

Be genuine – It’s okay to share how you’re feeling regarding the process and to acknowledge the other party’s feelings. A primary goal of this process is to develop and maintain the working relationship. Considering the whole person allows you to move outside this meeting.

Be compassionate and concerned, but don’t ‘step on eggshells’ – By using compassion and considering how the receiver may feel during this meeting, you can express your message so it will be heard and will uphold the self-respect of the receiver. Make sure the message comes across, though, and is not understood in niceties. And, focus the conversation on the work, not the person.

This process will also allow for faster action and resolution as well as more effective maintenance of the professional relationship. Difficult messages need not end professional relationships. When done with credibility, care and completeness, the outcome can lead to a more engaged colleague who feels supported and valued.

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Boost Your Self-Esteem

Sunday, August 16th, 2009

Low self-esteem can cause people to develop unhappiness, depression, insecurity and a poor confidence level. When you have low self-esteem every little mistake that takes place in your life is taken to heart. When people criticized you, when you make mistakes, a joke directed toward you and it will cause you to run away from every opportunity that comes your way and every challenge will seem impossible to accomplish. This will cause you to feel dormant and lose meaning and direction in your life.

Building self esteem is a step towards a healthy, productive and happy life. Yet having low self-esteem is maybe the most common mistake of our humankind. Having self-esteem will help build your self-confidence. If you have confidence, you will experience a self-worth and respect yourself as a person. If you respect yourself you can respect others, develop your life by improving your relationships with your love ones, friends and co-workers. You will be able to achieve your goals in life and attain true happiness in your life.

You can develop high self-esteem, just like learning to dance or read. Secondly, people do not comprehend the importance of having high self-esteem. I cannot even start to stress the importance of having high self-esteem; it is the key to having spiritual, physical and mental strength.

You need to love yourself by accepting all your mistakes and lying the past behind you, but if, you focus on your faults than you will only experience an unhappy life. You need to think optimistically and focus on your achievements.

To live with a happy condition of mind, you must have to have high self-esteem. You need to feel that you are no different from anybody else and that you can be the person you set in your mind to be. You need to reconstruct your life. You need to put yourself in a way of life that will make you happy and bring you as little stress as possible.

Once you accept yourself, you can manage with the world around you and accept the fact that you can do everything you expected to do in life. However, to accept yourself you first have to love who you are and be proud of the person you have become. There are lots of things in life you are capable of doing, but you must develop the motivation and the will to get out there and just do them.

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How To Get Along With Difficult People…

Wednesday, July 22nd, 2009

We all struggle to maintain a balance of personal power when working with other people. But when dealing with difficult people, sentiments tend to lead the way and we personalize the matter. We get hooked by their actions. Whether in organizations, at work, or even in our family, we all bump into people who are not easy to get along with.

Learn about differences between people. There are lots of personality typing systems. You can learn about who you are, the way you are, and then you can start to understand why others are the way they are. There are actual psychological justifications why people act the way they do. When you know this you can respond and become objective with reason instead of natural feeling which might make you desire to fight or flee.

People normally respond to those who understand their outlooks. You can do this by declarations such as, “If I understand you correctly…” or “I can see your perspective on…” Persuading the other individual that you see things in a similar way minimizes tension.

People want to be heard. They want to know that you care and that you understand the reality. In general, people don’t help those who emerge to be against them. During a tense circumstance, it is tempting to avoid eye contact, interrupt or disagree with the person. Build trust by using your body language to listen fully. And summarizing key facts shows that you understand them.

People have a reason or a purpose behind their behavior. They are trying to meet an unmet need. When something does not happen the way they want it to happen, the person’s behavior becomes more difficult, or extreme. Working to understand the enthusiasm behind the actions is vital.

There is little difference when people have the same main concern or goals. Problems occur when you have different fears. For example, if someone values getting the duty done rapidly and fears that a deadline won’t be met, then they may be controlling.

If a co-worker is on a tight of deadline, then stay brief. If a co-worker wants more social contact, then prove you care by chatting a bit longer. Whether you work with a complainer or a know-it-all, adapting to their style gives you the edge.

Adopting one or a few of these strategies might make your day at the office a little more bearable!

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